RubberBondage (rubberbondage) wrote in seattle_kink,

Social versus financial perceptions of tops and bottoms in society.

(Cross posted from my personal Journal)

These are my perceptions of being a "Top" or dominant in contrast to being a "Bottom" or sometimes called submissive.

For the record I am what I refer to as a switch. I am a top/sadist and I am a masochist or bottom. I am not s submissive and I find people seem to get that confused, how can you be a bottom and not be submissive?

Back to the subject at hand.

When interacting socially if I am attired in leather and assuming the persona of a Top I feel much better received. When I attempt to converse with others, they are more receptive and others will more readily initiate conversation and interaction with me.
When I am out and attired in rubber/latex and in general as a bottom I feel like I am dismissed, shunned or ignored by others.
Girls in latex = Hot and Sexy
Boys in latex = sick perverts
I think this may be associated with apparent American societal norms of boys as tops or dominants and girls as bottoms or submissives.

Financially it is a different matter.
I have a website and when I post galleries about me topping and girls bottoming (other than Zo fully encased) I do not get any feedback and not generate many new subscribers. When I post galleries of Rubberboy getting tortured and fucked in the ass by Mistress Miyou it generates new subscribers and renewals. I also get feedback about how cool the site is.
I think this is because:
1. It is more taboo to be a male bottom
2. Most males fantasize about being dominated by a beautiful mistress.
3. Most internet porn is viewed by and purchased by males.

Photography and Modeling.
Modeling wise I get many more requests to model as a bottom than as a top, particularly those opportunities that pay. This may be because most porn with males in it as submissives are gay oriented and it is rare to find hetero male bottoms willing to be put in such compromising positions.

So my summarization is socially it is better to appear as a top or dominant, but financially it is better to appear as a bottom or masochist.

What do you think? Why do you think this is?
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